13 | Curiosity, Control, and Honoring Others’ Agency

What is the difference between control and influence? Which trait does a good leader exhibit?

Steven wrestled with these questions after coming to terms with his own failures as a pastor, business leader, father, and husband. Growing up with a natural ability to teach and explain, Steven realized that he had the skills to influence others. Yet the line between control and influence was difficult to walk. In this episode, we talk about the concept of "honoring others' agency" and how curiosity (rather than control) is one of the most powerful ways to help those around us in their journey to reach their full potential. 

 

Topics:

• Reframing
• Selling
• Hagar and Ishmael
• Being a good father
• Listening to respond vs. Listening to learn

References:

•  Clarity Focus Heart Coaching & Consulting: http://clarityfocusheart.com/my-story/ (Steven's leadership coaching non-profit)
• Refocused Relationships: https://refocusedrelationships.com/ (Steven's ministry for LGBTQ+ members and their parents)
• "Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" by Douglas Adams
• "Sell Me This Pen" video with Jordan Belfort, the original Wolf of Wall Street: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbQPxhIcFaQ
• "The moral roots of liberal and conservatives" TED Talk with Jonathan Haidt: https://www.ted.com/talks/jonathan_haidt_the_moral_roots_of_liberals_and_conservatives?language=en

Transcript for Episode 13 with Steven: https://share.descript.com/view/zYHp2AdpQaj

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